Today,
September 10th, is World Suicide Prevention Day, and the start of World
Suicide Prevention Week. I spend time in the dark places myself and
know both how fast and easy the plummet to the bottom can be and how
very hard it is to see the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel much less climb out again.
Most of you know I do voluntary work with Lifeline Australia, a
telephone crisis line. Almost everyone who rings those lines with
thoughts of suicide has at least a degree of ambivalence. I, and all
the other volunteers, will work on that ambivalence to keep the caller
safe for the moment/the day and to help them see and consider other
options. Lifeline believes that suicide is often preventable and that
the start of the journey to safety can be only a phone call away. It is
often a long and painful journey but should never ever be one that people
feel condemned to walk alone.
Here in Australia suicide is still the leading cause of death for people
aged under 44. More people die from suicide each year than are killed
on the roads. Sadly the numbers of people we lose to suicide are
rising again. Which, given that I suspect suicide is under reported, is
scary.
Not
only does suicide take its toll on our young, there are other groups
who are over-represented in its tragic ranks including (but not limited
to) our indigenous population, the LGBTQI community, people with mental
health issues,
farmers, tradesmen, the unemployed, and the military. Sadly we lose
many more of our military personnel (serving and veterans) to suicide than we
do in the theatre of war. While we still
lose more men to suicide than women, the numbers of women who die by
suicide is climbing (an equality I don't want).
Our
suicide rate isn't the highest in the world but the rate in Australia
is above the World Health Organisation's (WHO) global average.
In 2011 Lifeline began national suicide prevention walks - 'Out of the Shadows and into the Light'. The
walks begin
before dawn and continue into the growing light. It remembers those
lost and those bereaved by
suicide, with an additional focus on raising awareness. The symbolism
of starting the walk in the dark and progressing
into the light of a new day means a lot to me. Some centres start
their walk later (ten or eleven) to attract more people and publicity. I
can see why, but am glad that our walks start in the dark. This cause means a great deal to me and I have attended each walk except the first one. This may be my last year so of course I went. Was it sensible? Possibly not but sometimes sensible has to take a back seat.
I
don't think that all suicide is wrong. However, it is such a
final decision that I hope it is not the first option considered or
tried. And, as a solution to a temporary problem, I do think it is
wrong. Right or wrong it is always a tragedy. A tragedy for the person
who had,
or believed they had, no other options and a tragedy for those they
leave behind. And the ripples from that tragedy encompass a lot of
people. Research shows that each time someone suicides, there are up to
135 people affected. In addition there is strong evidence that if
someone close to you dies by suicide your own chances of taking that
path are dramatically increased.
This
year the walk started from the National Carillon again.
This morning I headed off
again before dawn, grateful for the opportunity. My diseases slow me down, ensure my gait is wobbly and uneven and is painful. The
issue is much more important than I am. So I walked. Slowly just as I
do every year. Stopping to take photos. Rain was forecast. Tears from the sky. It held off till after the walk and, showing some sense, I got a lift some of the way round.
There were brief speeches.
Some of the names those lost were read out - which I find
moving. Sadly the list grows each year. As I have done for a number of
years, I added the name of the father of a friend of mine. His family
understood why he took that step but continue to mourn and grieve for
the opportunity lost to say goodbye. This ceremony means that people
are no longer nameless, but identified and missed. The youngest person identified in that list was 13 - which hurts my head and my heart.
This
morning we were again given a song. A song written by a talented
performer and tagged as a favourite by someone later died by suicide in
the studio in which it was created.
Tears were shed. Tears were shared.
Come
walk with me, through the chilly dawn, into the hopeful light of a new day (culminating in a cuppa with the other walkers).
The
empty chairs from other years have been replaced with candles to
symbolise the light(s) lost. This year we ran out of candles. Which is sad and bad.
RU OK
day is also celebrated in World Suicide Prevention Week. A simple question we
should be asking family, friends and colleagues every day.
Some services and links which may be useful for Australian readers include:
Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467
