This is a repost from rather a lot of years ago. Some of you will have seen it, some of you will not. However, as my title says, it is most definitely still true.
Very, very personally. Whether they admit to the acquaintance or not.
Which means that this next gem is also true.
I use those difficult people (too many of them family) to take a kind of personal audit. And it is overdue. At the moment I am not liking my bad tempered mean spirited whinging self. At all. Action is required.
With a little help from...
And how I wish the winebulance was an option open to me at the moment. Ongoing nausea means it is not. Big, big sigh. I can see an opening for that business - world wide.
All are excellent! The first two say so much.
ReplyDeleteWinebulance would be appreciated by nearly every female near me. The males are more beer and whiskey oriented.
Susan Kane: I am glad (and sorry) that they speak to others are clearly as they do to me.
DeleteThis made me laugh out loud - I really like all three photos. I do so look forward to weekends, when I allow myself a glass or two of wine (and occasionally, a small single-malt whisky; I am Scottish, after all).
ReplyDeleteI am sorry that you are still feeling bad; after your comments on Sunday I was hopeful that you were over the worst. Hang in there xo
Alexia: I do like a glass of wine when times are better, not every day, and not more than one, but...
DeleteI am better than I was but not right yet. Hanging on tightly.
The second one is spot on!
ReplyDeleteAlex J. Cavanaugh: It is, isn't it?
DeleteThey are good. I especially like the middle one.
ReplyDeleteAndrew: Me too. Muchly.
DeleteBad tempered? Mean spirited? Whinging? Impossible!
ReplyDeleteLove,
Janie
Jane Junebug: All of the above. Often.
DeleteStill don't believe it.
DeleteJanie Junebug: Nice to hear - but you are wrong.
DeleteEC, I hope soon you feel more like the person we meet through your blog and your visits to our blogs. You lift us up! Wish I could lift you up! Take care.
ReplyDeleteMarie Smith: Thank you. The community I have found in the blogosphere DOES lift me up.
DeleteToo true. I took a lesson on how NOT to be like my mother, who was always "in your face" demanding to know who or why and never let up until she got the answer she wanted, saying "I don't know" just wasn't good enough, ditto "no reason". Sadly, in my determination to NOT be so interfering, I went too far in the other direction and didn't communicate enough with my own children.
ReplyDeleteI do hope your nausea lets up soon. Very soon, like yesterday.
River: I took similar lessons from my mother. She was a stranger to the truth, and I try to stick to it. She was an mean spirited alcoholic and I try to be neither. A work in progress.
DeleteI remember unrelenting nausea from my pregnant days and it was the perfect thing to mmake a person grumpy , whingy and generally unhappy.
ReplyDeleteDon't be too hard on yourself, we all know who you really are, kind, unselfish, a giver with a well developed sense of humour.
I hope you are soon better xx
kylie: Nausea is a beast isn't it? Medication issues have meant that I have spent over a year with it, and this latest unwellness has upped the ante. At the moment I start the day with anti-nausea meds before I can even face other medication. This too will pass. And huge thanks. The person you describe is certainly the person I aspire to be.
DeleteGreat quotes and I do love the last one. Thanks for the smile :)
ReplyDeleteDeniseinVA: I am always glad to spread smiles.
DeleteYou have brought cheer and support to my life despite feeling awful. I wish I could do the same for you. May you soon have some answers on the health front, and in the meantime, as kylie says, don't be too hard on yourself. I like that second meme and find it true for myself as well. Hugs, my dear friend.
ReplyDeletejenny_o: Thank you. So much. That second one is very, very true isn't it. And a constant work in progress here.
DeleteYou are funny! We're all kind of nuts now and then, some of us more so than others. I've never met a perfect person nor one I'd consider entirely sane. Whatever the gauge is for "perfect" or "sane" because I'm not sure what that would be. You're all right by me, EC.
ReplyDeleteStrayer: Perfect is not the way I would describe anyone. Ever. And sanity is a moveable feast. Thank you too.
DeleteMemes are so true. Somewhere there must be a special notation about losing your television remote. ;=)
ReplyDeleteAnn Bennett: I am sure that there is. The television remote very, very rarely falls into my hands. The other household inhabitant (with two legs) has claimed it.
DeleteKeep laughing, as much as you can, it helps. Prayers that you feel better soon, even if you don't believe in them, they can't hurt.
ReplyDeletemessymimi: I do laugh, and particularly at myself. And thank you.
Delete2020 has seen me drinking and eating rather more than I probably should...
ReplyDeleteNot sure where I sit on the loony scale.I daresay some of the family could tell me!
dinahmow: My family are happy to tell me where I sit on the loony scale. I am apparently (despite being younger) considerably further down that path.
DeleteI've thought about going back and grabbing old posts. Most of the bloggers I know are so old they wouldn't remember them anyway. Except you, you're not old... are you? You're only as old as you feel. Wait... You're not feeling to good right now are you? You have to get better and younger. Get working on that.
ReplyDeleteMike: I am assuredly old. And comfortable with that. The feeling better on the other hand is certainly something I am working on.
DeleteNumber two is so much me! Thank you for the big smile.
ReplyDeleteNausea is a b*tch, and I do understand how it can make anybody - even you - bad tempered. I hope you'll get much better fast!
But I'd like a little bit of insanity in everybody; totally sane persons are boring in the extreme.
Charlotte (MotherOwl): I have a fridge magnet which reads 'The only normal people are those you don't know very well'. Which makes a heap of sense to me. I am always bad tempered but mostly control it better than I am at the moment. And thank you.
DeleteWe have that saying in Danish too. I've always loved it. Thank YOU!
DeleteCharlotte (MotherOwl): It is a brilliant phrase isn't it? I often turn to it when I am beating myself up for my inability to do things which 'normal' people manage.
DeleteYour posts have brought a lot of sunshine to others--- certainly to me. It upsets me to know that you are not well. I say let's fool the bastards, and live forever. ♥
ReplyDeleteBill: Thank you. I really don't want to live forever - but do want to live better than this. I am working on it.
DeleteHi EC - well this was a change ... I feel for you ... I'm just glad of my good genes ... many other problems ... while the desire for a winebulance outside with a long straw might suit me at the moment! Rather early though ... but I will consider it!
ReplyDeleteJust sorry you're suffering ... thanks for posting and for cheering us up - while you struggle through ... with thoughts and all the very best - enjoy your sunshine and garden ... Hilary
Hilary Melton-Butcher: I am sure that the winebulance comes equipped with straws. Stay safe dear friend.
DeleteGood to know ... I'll look into installing one! You too look after yourself ... xoxo
DeleteHilary Melton-Butcher: Hugs.
DeleteBoth memes are ever so true.
ReplyDeleteDo hope you feel better soon...and love the last photo, gave me a good laugh.
Margaret D: I laughed when I first saw the winebulance many years ago - and still smile. I often see other ambulances when I am out and about but never this one.
DeleteDear EC
ReplyDeleteI am sorry things aren't so good for you at the moment and hope you will improve. While my husband Chris would definitely support the winebulance, I think I would need the chocolatebulance. i re-stocked my stash yesterday and said to the lady in the shop, "forget pasta and toilet rolls, chocolate is the real essential!"
Best wishes
Ellie
Ellie Foster: After Christmas and birthdays our fridge is stocked with chocolate at the moment - and it is not tempting me at all. I must be unwell - but this too will pass.
Delete"I am not liking my bad tempered mean spirited whinging self."
ReplyDeleteWhat was going on when you wrote this?
Sandi: Nothing specific, but a general attitudinal shift which makes me uncomfortable.
DeleteI am always sad when I know that dark forces are weighing in on you, Sue, and I hope that it will be short-lived. Bad-tempered, mean-spirited and whinging doesn't sound like the Sue Goldberg I know. I am thinking of you and wishing for the best. David xo
ReplyDeleteDavid M. Gascoingne: Thank you. All of those things are a part of me - but are too much in the forefront at the moment.
DeleteLove this post. I'm all in for a winebulance. LOL Take care my friend.
ReplyDeleteMason Canyon: I think a lot of us would welcome a winebulance if it were to visit.
DeleteInsanity is necessary to keep one sane. I speak from experience...ongoing experience! :)
ReplyDeleteMy best wishes and thoughts go your way, EC...take good care...
Lee: Thank you - and your furry overlords too.
DeleteI can hardly drink wine these days myself, without getting nauseous. I think you are anything but mean spirited. I love you and your wonderful posts.
ReplyDeleteDJan: I do like a glass of wine, but not at the moment. And believe me I can be mean spirited - I can mostly keep it under better control. Thank you - and much love.
DeleteI feel for you for having nausea, very, very unpleasant. Speedy recovery. I do remember the nausea as my chemo treatments went along and the anti nausea medications I was given, one of them, Maxeran caused me such bad side effect, it was like having my head in a tight vice grip, I was restless and could not stay in place more than a few minutes and had palpitations. When my head nurse came back from caring for her mom several weeks after, she knew right away it was the Maxeran that was causing all my problems. As soon as I was prescribed a replacement, all my symptoms were gone. Maxeran didn't seem to bother the other patients.
ReplyDeleteI think the Winebulance is a good idea. I could use it once in a while. I like a glass of wine with a nice meal, it makes it more festive.
Get better soon. We appreciate you.
Hugs, Julia
Julia: Nausea is a sucky beast isn't it? I have lived with it for most of a year now (reaction to one of my medications). It has ramped up now and I am unimpressed. I am very glad that you found a substitute for Maxalon which worked. And thank you.
DeleteOh drats on the nausea and I can relate to the insanity. And the denial of such in families. Walking on eggshells. Speaking around and never directly. Avoidance. Gaslighting.
ReplyDeleteI hope you're feeling better soon.
XO
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Wisewebwoman: It is the denial of personal insanity - and the attribution of it to everyone else which is most prevalent in my family. With the generous light of gas thrown in.
DeleteAnd thank you.
Insanity is taking a stroll in my direction...
ReplyDeleteGranny Annie: Insanity often walks with me (and my family).
DeleteLove the idea of winebulance.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you're still not feeling well. Hopefully, an improvement is not too far away.
Olga Godim: Thank you. I hope your own much more serious medical condition is under control.
DeleteI'm so glad you reshared this with us, since I obviously have never seen it before. Insanity does tend to run (or meander) in families
ReplyDeleteBluebeard and Elizabeth: Insanity has settled in for the long haul here. She is definitely not running though or past.
DeleteI love these. Very reminiscent of my family.
ReplyDeleteI hope you get past your nausea soon. It's a good reason to whine in my book. And grumble. And snap. And growl... And...
Sandra Cox: I think that quite a lot of us recognise ourselves and our families in these memes. And thank you.
DeleteI'm so sorry you're not feeling well. Nausea is an awful thing. Anyone can get a little grumpy but clearly you still have a sense of humor.
ReplyDeleteUnknown: Thank you. My sense of humour has kept me from drowning more than once.
DeleteSo sorry you're not feeling well.
ReplyDeleteNasreen: This too will pass. I hope.
DeleteHope you are soon over the nausea and feeling more like your good self
ReplyDeleteAnna: Thank you. I will settle for it being mostly gone, and a return to my more or less normal self.
DeleteReading so many thoughtful comments and your replies, for me was almost more impressive than the memes which, 'of course', made me smile.
ReplyDeleteIt were not the worst moments in my life, when I stumbled upon you(r blog) and despite my laziness after a while left a com(pli)ment. Thank you, Sue.
Get better soon, and keep control of your "Mr Hyde".
Sean Jeating: I am endlessly grateful to have discovered the blogosphere and for the community which sustains me. and thank you for your very generous comment. Ms Hyde is thriving at the moment but with luck I will be able to evict her. Again.
DeleteNausea is a draining experience, no wonder you are running low. We all have our Bad Selves which can feel shaming but the Bad Self can also be a self protector - you need your energy for healing now so it makes sense that everyone else gets the 'back off' vibe. I assure you that I am capable of great meanness and sometimes it's been necessary. Other times apologies are owing! Wishing you wellness, and a well stocked winebulance xx
ReplyDeleteLisa Southard: Thank you. You are right that sometimes we need that Bad Self - but I do worry that she will become my default.
DeleteI hope you're feeling a bit better day. This year has been the unhealthiest of years for me. It's so draining to feel unwell and have to deal with difficult people. I love your insight around it and I'm sending you lots of positive vibes!
ReplyDeleteWarmly,
Elsie
Elsie Amata: Ill health and difficult people are an ugly combination aren't they? And NOT an excuse to turn into difficult people ourselves Thank you for those vibes. Stay safe.
DeleteAre you feeling any better today?
ReplyDeleteSandra Cox: A smidge. I have an appointment with a neurologist this afternoon and I hope he has some answers. And that the smidge becomes a flood.
DeleteHere's hoping for the flood. How did your appointment go?
DeleteHugs
Sandra Cox: Fingers crossed. I have sent you an email.
DeleteNo other symptoms? I do hope your neurologist can determine the cause and fix it. I can't imagine being nauseated all of the time, especially when the Winebulance is passing by. Hope you are feeling better Sue. I will have you in my thoughts ... AS for people who remind me of who I don't want to be ... all of my in-laws have passed except for my FH's brother and family and they are nice people. And I have whittled down my friendships very carefully, so at the moment, I don't have any examples of bad behavior to deal with ... I think I am lucky, but on the other hand, maybe I need to be reminded of what my own bad behavior looks like after being on lockdown for so long. But, today I have much to look forward to. We (meaning America)had gotten rid of the Grinch and replaced him with a descent, honorable man and a wonderful spitfire for VP. We are finally able to relax ... sigh :) Wishing you well ....
ReplyDeleteAndrea @ From the Sol
Andrea @ From The Sol: Plenty of other symptoms which come and go. The nausea (at varying levels) is a constant. I am very glad that you have no bad examples in your life - and very hopeful for your country - which is a first in over four years. Stay well, stay safe.
DeleteI like the idea of a winebulance :)
ReplyDeleteSending lots more healing thoughts across the miles or should I say internet!
Thinking of you.
All the best Jan
Lowcarb team member ~Jan: Thank you. I saw an ambulance in our street yesterday and while hoping they were able to help the patient thought that I would much rather see a winebulance.
DeleteI'm sorry you're not feeling well. I despise being nauseous :(
ReplyDeletemshatch: It isn't a lot of fun is it?
DeleteSo sorry about the nausea. I am having gastric problems now and I have had that experience for some months. Comes and goes. Went to see a Gastro doc this week and now will have procedures in coming weeks. I hope you feel much better soon. Good luck with your doctor.
ReplyDeleteGlenda Beall: Thank you. I do hope your procedures help and you can dismiss those symptoms for good.
DeleteEC I am so sorry!!! I wish I could do something for you! How about drinking hot water and honey for your nausea?? Please take care of you!! Big Hugs and Lots of love!!
ReplyDeleteMagic Love Crow: Water (without honey) is often all I can face. The nausea has back off a bit (but not left) over the last few days - which is more than welcome.
DeleteI hope you find out what's going on soon!!!!
ReplyDeleteMagic Love Crow: Thank you. More tests next week and it seems I need to find a new General Practioner. And then more tests. Fingers crossed.
DeleteThinking of you!!!
DeleteMagic Love Crow: Thank you. As always.
DeleteI think we are related. Your family sounds like my family. Hoping you feel better very soon! xo
ReplyDeleteJ C: Thank you. I suspect that many of us can recognise ourselves/our families in this meme.
Delete"Winebulance" - ha! A much-needed service, indeed. My sister (in another province) was gloating just the other day over how she was able to order wine to be delivered to her door thanks to the COVID pandemic. Now, if we could just get the the winebulance declared an emergency service... ;-)
ReplyDeleteDiane Henders: If only... I would love to see the winebulance in my street - even on days when I couldn't partake of its services.
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ReplyDeletesorry about your health issues my friend !
i wish ,hope and pray that this problem with you ends well and soon by the grace of Lord
yet talking from my own experiences there is NOTHING YOU CAN DO with your undefeated will power !
hugs and blessings!
baili: Thank you. I suspect my will power will require some assistance, but live in hope.
DeleteSorry to hear about your nausea. I hope they find out why and fix it. I've never had it but apparently am a "carrier".
ReplyDeleteI have spent my life trying not to be like my father. Sometimes successful. Now I am going to pour myself a glass of Jameson
The Blog Fodder: There are parts of both my parents that I admire and try and emulate - and definitely parts of both of them that I really, really don't want to become.
DeleteOh these are brilliant...and relate so well to me also!😉Lol. Some of the most difficult people I have encountered have been my relatives!!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry you can't even have a glass of wine to cheer you up at the moment...just wish I could help to cheer you up somehow...I do feel for you...so, so much.
Sending you much love and comforting virtual hugs ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Ygraine: Quite a lot of us can relate to these memes. Too many of us. And thank you. I will be fine.
DeleteTo many of us are not getting out of the house. I think an emergency wine service is needed... just with a two drink limit.
ReplyDeleteBathwater: Welcome and thank you. We are under very mild restrictions here, and my introverted self doesn't usually mind being at home. I grew up with an alcoholic mother and strictly adhere to that two drink (at most) limit.
DeleteSuch a true, true statement, and I think we all suffer from those days where we need to step back, take a deep breath and begin again. I stopped drinking years ago, but I still like the fun of using wine/champagne glasses on my planners and to raise my glass in solidarity when needed.(lol) Hope you're doing well, and sending along some hugs, RO
ReplyDeleteRO: Thank you. I still often need to step back and begin again and do worry about being a slow learner. Some of my life lessons simply don't stick.
DeleteMy mother was an alcoholic and I am always careful about how much I drink but do like the occasional glass of wine. When my body will let me. And, like you, I am happy to raise my glass in solidarity.
I used to say that my older sister made all the mistakes in life, so I didn't have to. (I've made quite a few independent of her choices, so there's that.)
ReplyDeleteBea: My many mistakes are very different to those of my brothers. I don't think that they have made any of mine either.
DeleteThose are some great quotes, but the winebulance is truly awesome. It reminds me of this BBQ truck we saw parked on a corner one day - their truck said "Vegetarian Recovery Center" on the side.
ReplyDeletejasonmcgathey: Welcome and thank you. My brother would love that truck and would generously offer to take his vegetarian sister to the recovery centre.
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