This gem also came to me via Facebook. I may have to reconsider my decision not to play.
Another one that resonated. My first reaction was to chuckle. Then I thought about it. I do spend a lot of time straddling the borders between mental health issues and equilibrium. Knowing that, why is it that I allow other people to put pressure on me that I know is going to rock that balance?
So .... another lesson learned. Another thing to be aware of.
Another one that resonated. My first reaction was to chuckle. Then I thought about it. I do spend a lot of time straddling the borders between mental health issues and equilibrium. Knowing that, why is it that I allow other people to put pressure on me that I know is going to rock that balance?
So .... another lesson learned. Another thing to be aware of.
Isn't it true though...how often we let others rule how we feel? We have our own drivers licence...let's take charge.
ReplyDeletemybabyjohn/Delores: We do don't we. Despite knowing it is wrong.
DeleteI love this. I may have to make it my facebook profile picture. I just posted one that you might enjoy as well... if you are a Rolling Stones fan that is...
ReplyDeleteCindi: Thank you. And I did just pop over to your place and you are right, I loved it.
DeleteHaha, that's a pretty cute sentiment. Exercise our right to go mad?
ReplyDeleteJohn Wiswell: If/when I go mad I am going to do it my way.
DeleteIt's true...and I almost make it there every day!
ReplyDeleteKaren: In your own way at your own speed I hope.
DeleteThe older I get the less I allow people to drive me crazy. I am hoping that when I am old I will just not give a S*** about anything!
ReplyDeleteBirdie: There are still a few people in my life who know which button they should press for the most dramatic reaction. Hopefully I will learn to take several deep breathes and ignore them.
DeleteFace booklet is OK if you keep it on a leash.
ReplyDeleteAloha from Honolulu
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Cloudia: At the moment I think there are too many other things in my world. And I already spend too much time on line.
DeleteAn, madness, sometimes it seems like such an easy road to go down.
DeleteLOL -- that is funny! But as you say, also something to be aware of. We need to learn to take control of our own lives and not let others rule us... (Easier said than done.)
ReplyDeleteladyfi: Much, much easier said than done.
DeleteMany years ago when people pushed certain mental buttons that they knew would upset me i'd over react now i'm older and wiser i tend to ignore them :-).
ReplyDeleteWindsmoke: You do better than I do. I mean to ignore it but ....
DeleteYes . . . Even when I'm in the driving seat, the kids seem to "carjack" me and drive me straight there every day. Without fail. Hmmmmm.
ReplyDeletebugerlugs63: I suspect that the person who could resist such pressures is rare. Something to aspire to though.
DeleteYes! I will need to post post-haste on my fb wall.
ReplyDeleteA woman I knew once, older and wider than me (of course), once told me after another woman, younger and more shrill, said something dreadful to me in front of others. I walked out and this older woman followed me. I was crying, of course, feeling very hurt, and she said to me: "Why do you let people like her have your energy?"
I GAVE someone my energy.
This is why I love your post--it reminds me to stay in control of my own crazy, and reminds me of that dear woman. Peace...
Linda: Gave someone your energy, gave them power over you. Frightening when you stop to think about it, and so easy to do. Thank you.
DeleteI had to read that twice before I got it. :) That is a perfectly true sentiment and I wish I had always known that.
ReplyDeleteLynn: Knowing it, I wish I could always remember it.
DeletePlus, if you're walking it will take you longer to get there and maybe you can find a detour to Happy along the way.....
ReplyDeleteRiver: I love that. Thank you. Any detours to happiness gratefully received and appreciated.
Deletethe eff-books can consume a lot of time. i've made a conscious decision to spend less time there... good stuff and bad stuff, it's a lot of 'stuff'.... and i don't get as much done sitting in a chair playing on the laptop.
ReplyDeletedaisyfae: Are there enough hours in any of our days? Not mine certainly.
DeleteLove this, E-Child. It's probably something I should stick on the table beside my bed so that I'm reminded of it every morning!
ReplyDeleteKath: Thank you. It is another gem isn't it?
DeleteSo very true. And it made me chuckle, too. I hope you are doing well; you are often in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteDJan: Thank you. On both counts. I have been better but am claiming my life back.
DeleteThis is neat and a lesson too...Facebook does have some good quotes
ReplyDeleteKim @ Stuff: Thank you. I was given this lovely quote by my nephew's wife. She knows I don't play on Facebook and thought I would appreciate it. She was right, I do.
DeleteThat's a great quote and a wise one, words for us all to live by.
ReplyDeleteDenise: Certainly words to try and remember. To hopefully remember.
DeleteYour simply human like the rest of us. welcome!
ReplyDeletePam: Thank you. Welcome to the insanity of humanity. It even rhymes.
DeleteSo absolutely true.
ReplyDeleteMy granddaughters have learned this: I am rubber and you are glue; what you say bounces off me and sticks on you. Wise girls.
Susan Kane: I like your granddaughter's ditty. I may well use it.
Delete( I do spend a lot of time straddling the borders between mental health issues and equilibrium."
ReplyDeleteYour legs must get awfully tired standing spread-out like that. On the other hand, if you have to pee, and you're not wearing underwear, you're perfectly positioned for it.
Snowbrush: How flattering of you to assume I have to stretch. Even at the best of times I am never very far from a plunge to the depths of depression so my straddle is quite small (almost ladylike). The question of underpants depends on the time of day and the time of year.
DeleteThat is hilarious! But good point made by you. It's hard for me not to say yes to everything since I want to fix everything and help everyone.
ReplyDeleteRiot Kitty: Have I told you how much I love your avatar? What a lovely person you are to want to do that.
DeleteI have to say I laughed, but then, reading your text, yes, the more profound side of it came to the surface. An excellent find and a powerful post.
ReplyDeleteDave King: Thank you on two counts. Firstly for laughing first, and secondly for reconsidering. And of course, for your compliment.
DeleteWaylon Jennings said it best for me - "I've always been crazy but it keeps me from going insane". Others can't drive me crazy because I'm already there - but in a manageable state of "craziness" of my own design and one I'm comfortable with. That probably doesn't make any sense but it works for me...
ReplyDeleteRon Dudley: Oh yes, that makes a great deal of sense. Crazy in a way you can live with ....
DeleteStand guard at the door of your mind. Love the quote. Will steal, sorry share, it.
ReplyDeleteJ Cosmo Newbery: Steal away. I think it needs to be shared.
DeleteDear EC, . . . these gems of wisdom always impinge on my own knowledge of myself and help me get out of my mind and objectify what I'm feeling. And yes, often I, too, straddle that fence between mental chaos and mental wellness. Sometimes the foot slips and I find myself lost in a PTSD overload. Then I have to be gentle with myself and bring myself out of choas and into the light of my own sanity.
ReplyDeleteThe quote you gave did make me smile and your explanation of it was so on target. Thank you.
And thank you also, EC, for stopping by my blog and commenting. I'm always glad when I see a comment from you.
Peace.
Dee: My balance is so precarious that if often doesn't take much to push me to the less desirable side. Something I need to monitor.
DeleteIt is my pleasure comeing by your place. Always an education, often delight as well. Thank you.
I struggle, too. It's always 'interesting' how often one can 'let' someone in with the resulting havoc. And then the work of finding oneself again. Not easy. A lovely find with the reassurance that there is a choice to be made.
ReplyDeleteTake care
Christine: No, it isn't easy. Another of the things that a little mindfullness early may prevent a whole lot of hard work later. There is a wonderful little word called 'no' which I need to use a whole lot more often.
DeleteYep!
DeleteI find that the older I get the less I allow it to happen, or at least I nip it in the bud much quicker. No-one has the right to bugger up our mental stability, be it fragile or not, for their own selfish gain, and I've experienced it many, many times. The good folks always do methinks.
ReplyDeleteAll Consuming: I agree with you that no-one has that right, but sadly I have made them a gift of it too many times. Time for me to take more responsibility.
Delete'Love that sign sweetie!!! It's a great reminder not to let somebody steal your joy!!!
ReplyDeleteGod bless ya and have a blissful day darlin'! :o)
Nezzy: Thank you. No-one has the right to steal it and as I replied to All Consuming I should not give it to them either.
Deletewhen I stopped worrying about what people thought about me, my life got a whole lot happier..
ReplyDeleteAnnmarie Pipa: Welcome. It isn't so much worrying about what other people think (though that is part of it) it is taking on more than I can manage.
DeleteAnnmarie Pippa: I take it back. Worrying about what other people think/accepting their values is a big part of it.
DeleteI'll show this to my kids. ;)
ReplyDeleteLL Cool Joe: Welcome. Do you think if will help you or your kids more?
DeleteSpot on!! I used to be a victim.. but not any more :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing ;)
Wildblack: Welcome and thank you.
DeleteI hope the rocking has stop.
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by. Be well and happy.
cheers
Pam: Thank you.
DeleteMay peace and happiness come your way. Have a wonderful weekend.
ReplyDeleteHugs and smiles across the miles :)
Pam: And to you.
DeleteWell, I've been driven round the bend and up the wall. To add to my confusion, I'm now doing it on the opposite side of the road.
ReplyDeleteOkay, seriously, I try my utmost to distance myself from those who have tried to bombard my positive outlook with negativity. I know that a positive environment starts from within and maintaining that balance can be quite the challenge. A challenge that tells me that nobody has the right to sabotage our rights to a peaceful, positive life.
May you have a lovely weekend.
With respect and kind wishes, Gary
Klahanie: That balance can be so hard won, and so easily lost. Must try harder...
DeleteI hope that you and yours have a wonderful weekend too.
Love it! That is so true, although with me it is the other people that make things worse. Not so much a drive though as a push...
ReplyDeleteDorothy Krajewski: And somedays not so much a push as a nudge. Other people make it worse in my world as well, but I let them. So easy, so very wrong.
DeleteAnother very good truth. You could make a book out of these, i swear!
ReplyDeleteCatherine, ex oh mwah!: Thank you.
DeleteI understand just what you mean - it is a constant effort to balance and re-balance. I am one who very much wants an even keel, and I've had to learn to let the waves rock the boat a bit and come back to quiet on their own - reminding myself that this is how it works and I needn't get too worked up and cause further rocking. Sounds good here, but it's not as easy as I made it sound!
ReplyDeleteMelissa Ann Goodwin: Thank you. I also find it hard to recognise which waves to ride out, and which ones I need to do something to regain equilibrium. A work in progress. Always.
DeleteThis is great!
ReplyDeleteCome At Me Bro: Welcome and thanks.
DeleteI like that!
ReplyDeleteProbably because I'm quite Craaaaaaaaaaazy. Xx
hoping you are well, e.
My Inner Chick: Crazy is not a word I would use to describe you. Driven, and committed to the cause, but not crazy. Though both of those things can make a girl feel a little loopy.
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