This post is prompted by one of the books I picked up from a book fair on election day. It is a biography of an Australian poet, Shelton Lea, about whom I knew nothing.
I expected to be intrigued, I expected to learn things. I did not expect to be filled with ballistic and impotent rage.
Shelton Lea was adopted. Adopted into the Darrell Lea family. Non-Australian readers may or may not know that Darrell Lea was a privately owned company which made and sold chocolate, liquorice and confectionery.
He was not the only child adopted into the Darrell Lea dynasty. His adoptive parents were wealthy and their money spoke for them. Valerie, the matriarch of the family adopted three children - to be playmates for her own children because 'Two dogs play better than one.'
Based on her treatment of the children she adopted I don't think she should have been allowed to adopt anything which needed more care than a house brick.
She had difficulties with Shelton, and when he was three (three for goodness sake) took him for psychiatric assessment at a residential centre for children with intellectual and psychiatric problems. He was watched and tested over several months and the doctors came to the conclusion that the problem did not lie with the child. This finding was supported by other agencies over the years - and they left Shelton and the other adopted children where they were. Grr.
Needless to say Valerie did not agree. She drugged him, she slapped him ('he needs a good whack a day'). I cannot comprehend the emotional damage that being constantly belittled, punished and blamed for everything - without proof, would have had.
The other adoptive children seemed to fare a little better. But only a little. Shelton was the scapegoat but they were also treated badly. It was made clear to them that they would inherit none of the Lea family wealth. Presumably being adopted was inheritance enough.
Shelton was placed in boys homes, imprisoned and turned to drugs and alcohol. As a teenager in a lock-up he discovered the writings of Era Pound and turned to poetry.
He escaped from his adoptive family early, but spent time on the streets, in boys homes and in prison. Unsurprisingly his relationships with women were difficult. He felt rejected by his birth mother and was rejected by his adoptive mother.
As an adult, he plucked up the courage to approach Valerie to ask about his birth mother. She lied, and effectively denied knowing anything about his mother. His biographer ultimately tracked her down - ten years after her death.
And here is where the pointless gesture comes in. If they hadn't gone out of business last year I would have imposed a personal boycott on Darrell Lea products.
I occasionally bought their liquorice for the smaller portion, but didn't like their other products. I doubt that I would have spent $20 a year on Darrell Lea confectionery. Insignificant. And, as a private gesture it would have had even less impact.
Just the same, if they were still in operation, I would have imposed my personal ban. A question of conscience perhaps?
PS: This is not a review, but a rant. I have some books, some written by other bloggers which I will review (here and on Amazon) but I needed to vent some spleen about a woman who used her money to treat children like a commodity.
I expected to be intrigued, I expected to learn things. I did not expect to be filled with ballistic and impotent rage.
Shelton Lea was adopted. Adopted into the Darrell Lea family. Non-Australian readers may or may not know that Darrell Lea was a privately owned company which made and sold chocolate, liquorice and confectionery.
He was not the only child adopted into the Darrell Lea dynasty. His adoptive parents were wealthy and their money spoke for them. Valerie, the matriarch of the family adopted three children - to be playmates for her own children because 'Two dogs play better than one.'
Based on her treatment of the children she adopted I don't think she should have been allowed to adopt anything which needed more care than a house brick.
She had difficulties with Shelton, and when he was three (three for goodness sake) took him for psychiatric assessment at a residential centre for children with intellectual and psychiatric problems. He was watched and tested over several months and the doctors came to the conclusion that the problem did not lie with the child. This finding was supported by other agencies over the years - and they left Shelton and the other adopted children where they were. Grr.
Needless to say Valerie did not agree. She drugged him, she slapped him ('he needs a good whack a day'). I cannot comprehend the emotional damage that being constantly belittled, punished and blamed for everything - without proof, would have had.
The other adoptive children seemed to fare a little better. But only a little. Shelton was the scapegoat but they were also treated badly. It was made clear to them that they would inherit none of the Lea family wealth. Presumably being adopted was inheritance enough.
Shelton was placed in boys homes, imprisoned and turned to drugs and alcohol. As a teenager in a lock-up he discovered the writings of Era Pound and turned to poetry.
He escaped from his adoptive family early, but spent time on the streets, in boys homes and in prison. Unsurprisingly his relationships with women were difficult. He felt rejected by his birth mother and was rejected by his adoptive mother.
As an adult, he plucked up the courage to approach Valerie to ask about his birth mother. She lied, and effectively denied knowing anything about his mother. His biographer ultimately tracked her down - ten years after her death.
And here is where the pointless gesture comes in. If they hadn't gone out of business last year I would have imposed a personal boycott on Darrell Lea products.
I occasionally bought their liquorice for the smaller portion, but didn't like their other products. I doubt that I would have spent $20 a year on Darrell Lea confectionery. Insignificant. And, as a private gesture it would have had even less impact.
Just the same, if they were still in operation, I would have imposed my personal ban. A question of conscience perhaps?
PS: This is not a review, but a rant. I have some books, some written by other bloggers which I will review (here and on Amazon) but I needed to vent some spleen about a woman who used her money to treat children like a commodity.
