I'm anxiety woman too, and today is an anxious day. Then I saw this, and the first smile of the day happened. My boyfriend laughed too, cause this is spot on =) Thank you for sharing =)
CrimsonAnna: There are too many of us about. But I am glad to have given you that first smile of the day.
Did you do one of those online tests? I admit to being anxious sometimes, too.
Lynn: No test. Anxiety has been a part of me for as long as I can remember.
I thought I was the only one! But I've found ways to not be so anxious, so I've gotten lazy and don't jump to conclusions as often. Certain situations do make me anxious no matter what though.My confession: I talk a lot! To strangers even. It's terrible, since I was a child. I'd blab all the family happenings.
Guyana-Gyal: Not alone. Never alone on this front. And my father told me that my tongue was hinged in the middle to allow me to talk at both ends.
Yes that's me too. I fret. If I hear a dog bark a block away I just assume it is lost, starving + abandoned. Every squawky magpie on my lawn is obviously desperate for water and mince. Oh that poor dog running beside the selfish owners bike. Oh the poor birds in the trees in the storm. Look for chocolate and make tea. x x
Ann ODyne: Yup. And chocolate and tea (and books) are lifesavers.
sweet lady. The stars shine at night like diamonds on black velvet. The cool breeze caresses, the moon provides the light for lover's to embrace. Here in the desert the aroma of sage gently scents the air and we are serenaded by the music of the wind blowing on the sands. Creatures emerge to hunt, to mate, to celebrate life in it's most rudimentary form. Anxiety is a trick. An evil trick which robs you of solace. Do not allow your mind to cloud what your heart knows is true. Feel the embrace of the Universe and be at peace.
Mohave Rat: What a poetic expression of the beauty and solace of nature. Thank you so much. I know you are right, but it sometimes slips away from me.
That's so beautiful Mr Rat, and true, though it's very hard I know all the same Sue. I'm glad you have your escapes and distractions and know that at least it gives you the empathy to help others when needed. We are so much better at helping others than ourselves I find. Hugs x
All Consuming: It is very beautiful - and equally true. He is a poetic beast isn't he. And yes, I do have escapes and distractions and am grateful. So very grateful.
"Creatures emerge to hunt..."Makes me anxious...
My sister and mother suffer from anxiety, as did my maternal grandmother. I do believe it can be genetic. The important thing to know is that you are not alone :) I read once that 40% of the population suffers from anxiety.
Optimistic Existentialist: Thank you. I am (mostly) able to function despite my anxiety and am aware of how lucky I am.
I hear a siren and I assume it's going to my daughter's place, though the one time a siren did go there, I didn't hear it. People don't return my calls and I think they don't want me as a friend anymore, on and on. I guess in my case, it's more negative thinking than anxiety.
Sue in Italia/In the Land of Cancer: Oh yes. And I don't think we can separate negative thinking from anxiety. And am not sure which is the chicken and which the egg.
Everyone has a super talent!
Alex J. Cavanaugh: Can I ask for an exchange?
Well let's face...there's a lot to be anxious about. It's a dirty job but someone has to do it. Maybe we could form a support group.
Delores: A support group - or a club.
NO I always try to look for the good in everything. Anxiety is using a lot of energy into something that probably will NEVER happen and can put you into an early grave.
Margaret Adamson: I hear you - but that it something I find much, much easier to say than to do.
Ha ha ha ha ha! Thought I was looking in the mirror! So funny, EC, because I suspect I inherited this trait from my mother. I hope you will write more about this? -Vickie
Musings, Tea and Me: There are a lot of us wearing that cape aren't there?
I confess ~ that's me too! Love the meme :)
Carol in Cairns: Too many of us.
guilty here too, I could also be called worry wart, ha I am always thinking about what could happen if, but I think that can also help as it's also planning ahead, if a problem arises we have already thought of several solutions in advance.
Linda Starr: That is precisely the way I rationalise it too. Never mind not crossing the bridge until I get to it, I have frequently constructed several bridges before I am sure there is a river.
Author R. Mac Wheeler: Someday I will get that third ha from you.
You made me laugh, Ms. Anxiety Woman! Even Anxiety Girl has a cape, so there are worse things to be. :-)
DJan: Yes, I have the cape - but I would like to be able to fly and have a laser sword too.
Like most others I can SO identify with you. Thought the saying thine ing just right for my day.
Bookie: Interesting how many of us there are isn't it? A run on anxiety woman capes...
Well, sometimes we SHOULD be anxious, dammit!!:-)Pearl
Pearl: Yes - and I am. Starting the week before it is necessary.
Don't you think it is just a woman thing? I don't know any woman who doesn't worry ... I would say it is hormonal except the hormones here are long gone so it must be just a biological fact. As for crone, I am not sure ... if that were the case you would need to add a pointed hat and a broom... as for me, I've got the broom :) Hang on to your hat EC, there's always some anxiety provocation waiting around the corner. Be well ...Andrea @ From The Sol
Andrea Priebe: I already have the (worry) wart needed for crone status. And far too many brooms. It isn't only women - but we do seem to be a LOT more prone to it.
Not only women, my ex was so anxious he'd worry over the fact there was nothing to worry about. "Things are going too well, it can't last" and so on. ALL THE TIME. Drove me nuts.
River: That must have made his life - and yours, very, very difficult.
I'm not guilty! I use yoga and meditation to curb the anxiety.
Karen: Congratulations. You seem to be in a minority - which is a shame.
Wonderful poster! I suspect we're all guilty of this now and then.
ladyfi: Some of us more often, and often with less cause, than others.
I can work myself up without cause easily, too. Oh well. That's me. We're all who we are and you are very nice.
Strayer: And another one on the guilty side of the equation. Sigh. And thank you.
I am right there with you.
Lisa: It is a crowded part of the world isn't it?
I'm with you on the anxiety. It's worse when in a MS flair.
Mom at home: Yup.
Kathleen Cassen Mickelson: Thank you. I suspect you might recognise this girl as well.
I have family members who suffer from anxiety. It's hard for them, really hard. I feel for those whose anxiety affects their lives greatly. There are medications to help, but it can take a long time to find what works, and they can be contraindicated for pregnant or nursing moms, which is another whole issue. I hope you find peace from the anxiety at least some of the time, EC.
jenny_o: I am lucky. My anxiety is not (usually) debilitating - but it is almost always there. I hope your family members have found some peace.
I AM THE QUEEN OF THE ANXIETY REALM. You are heretofore accepted into the choir. I would "knight" you, but the blade would slip and there'd be so much blood....then we'd get some kind of horrible infection in the ER, and you'd end up suing me, and I'd be homeless and.....well, that's why I"M the QUEEN!!!!
Hail, Your Royal Highness! We, your humble servants bow at your feet.
lotta joy: Exactly. I am not anxious for myself but more than make up for it worrying about others. And no, I wouldn't sue you.Snowbrush: No, no, no. If we bow at her feet the queues behind us might trip over our supine bodies and hurt themselves. Or worse fall onto the Queen.
GOD SAVE THE QUEEN!!!!!!!!!!!!! uh.....LONG LIVE THE QUEEN?
lotta joy: Long may you reign over us.
Don't get to her head!
Anxiety is awful. I get the jumps sometimes and have to get some help --which, fortunately, is plentiful-- otherwise I'd turn into Anxiety Girl too.
Geo: Some anxiety is useful - but sometimes it is a soul sucker. And I am glad you have found help.
Me too! Mom goes in for a PET scan next week to see how good the radiation did and I am just so scared. I should try to be positive, but it is so hard. One girl at work told me that I shouldn't stress as mom is up there in age. Now I have either a bad cold or sinuses. This always happens when I stress out so bad.
Teresa: I am wishing bad things on the girl at work and her insensitivity. Of course you are worried. How could you not be? Fingers and toes crossed for your mama and you.
Thank you so much. Sometimes I am my worst enemy! I even worry that I am worrying too much! I am loving this post. It helps me see that I am not alone. I love everyones opinions and views.
But of course I wish that we didn't all go through this.
Teresa: So very far from alone. I hope you noticed that of the people who commented those of us who worry are in the majority. By a long way. But yes, it would be nice to be able to let it go.
Maybe anxiety is just what naturally happens when your worst fears come true repeatedly, i.e. you give up hope that things will turn out differently next time.
Snowbrush: My anxiety started long before I had the experience to back up that view point. Worst case scenarios come very, very naturally to me. For other people. For myself I am able to accept what it. Which is also weird.
I'm the opposite which means that when I do feel anxious I'm a nervous wreck. :-) Go figure!Greetings from London.
A Cuban in London: I hope that you don't often feel anxious. And it sounds as if you don't jump the gun as I (and others) do, and get your worrying in early.
Awe, it's awful, but, next time.
Bob Bushell: I like (but rarely share) your optimism.
I now the feeling well, EC...and it makes me anxious!
Lee: I though this would strike a chord with others, but am horrified at just how many of us are singing from the same book.
Merlesworld: Good. We need a bit of balance on the other side.
I read somewhere that the human race has only survived because of us anxious ones telling everyone else to have a care! And we're the ones who survive to breed and raise children, who are all as anxious as their parents, so anxiety is becoming more widespread. The news media are no help either, always seeing the dark side and reporting it gleefully.
lynners: And some days the news media invents dark news to report on gleefully. Or at least makes it darker and more dire than it is.And yes, anxiety isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes a very necessary thing. And, like depression, sometimes the only rational response.
I know her well. She is - was - me.Now, I'm Manic Menopausal Madam of Madness and Confusion.
Vicki: Thats you and me both. But the anxiety crone still has a hold on me too.
I'm lucky, anxiety doesn't know where I live, so never comes calling.
River: I hope it never finds you.
Hehehe ... 'anxiety crone' ... there's an ABC series in that you know... :-)
Geoff: At least one series - and the spin-offs.
I am your anxiety twin so I have no advice to give, only camaraderie. :) Hugs to you!
River Fairchild: Not the super power we would have chosen given our druthers...
Somehow, I don't think anyone will ever think of you as a "crone." Sorry about the anxiety. I know how rough that can be, because my mother was an expert at it. (I guess that was her super power, too.) For whatever reason, I've been blessed with a pretty calm exterior, and it takes a lot to shift me into worry wart mode.
Susan: Flattery. Cronedom is approaching fast - and I am mostly ok with it.My exterior is often calm - concealing the maelstrom within.
I get it.Love flowing from Minnesota, dearest Sue. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
My Inner Chick: Far too many of us get it. Hugs.
Me too. After all, why drop off into a peaceful, restorative sleep when you can toss and turns for hours and hours; night after night; worrying about things we don't have the power to do anything about? xo
Kath Lockett: And, in the 3 am horrors, inventing new uglinesses to worry about.
I have terrible anxiety and have no doubt I will be anxiety crone! Love that and it made me laugh even though I know anxiety is not really anything to laugh at. This poster is perfect too. :)
Julie Flanders: I laughed (in rueful recognition) when a friend sent it to me. And I think that laughing at things (rather than people) is healing. Well it is for me.
Anxiety is debilitating. I have suffered since I was a child.
Madge Rott: Welcome. Yes, anxiety is exhausting. And demoralising. And soul sucking. Like rather a lot of other chronic conditions. And anxiety also, at least sometimes, keeps us and our loved ones safe.
Dear Sue, was there anything in particular that happened to urge you to post this? I know how anxiety can debilitate a person.....Sending big hugs from across the world! And, I'm with the others who said they can't see you as a crone!
BECKY: I am obviously concealing my true crone nature well. A friend sent this to me - and as I said to Julie Flanders I laughed in rueful recognition. And thought that there would be others in the same boat - and, as you know, I laugh at everything. No matter how serious.
Ah yes, of course, I try to live life with realistic positive anticipation, rather than negative speculation. Yep, I really should convince myself of that. I do know my anxiety can make me anxious about my anxiety. Be well, dear Sue.Gary :)
klahanie: Dear Gary, yes, anxiety feeds on itself. And on you. And me. And rather a lot of other people.
Me too - and one of my daughters. In recent years my mum has told me about hers as well. She hid it well from us as kids, I had no idea. Don't think I've hidden it from mine!
Jackie K: So it is most of us (here in the blogosphere at least). Which is sad. And bad.
I do have anxious moments from time to time but I don't have anxiety disorder. However, I do struggle with depression and this, too, can be very debilitating.
Linda: I think that anxiety and depression are close cousins. Sometimes too close. Incestuous even.
Guilty as charged! I recently figured out mine is OCD-based, which was actually a relief, as I am figuring out how to deal with it. And you're right on about it going with depression.
Riot Kitty: I hope you do find a way to deal with it. I have lived with, and will live with mine - but it isn't always easy, and it is never fun.
I certainly can relate. What I really hate about anxiety is that you live thousands of terrible moments in your mind unnecessarily. And for me, it seems to come in cycles. Lately, I've been working on challenging my fears by doing the opposite of what they say. So if anxiety says, "You shouldn't exercise so hard lest you pass out and make a scene here in the gym (when my doc has clearly told me that I am fit enough to exercise vigorously), I jump on the elliptical bike and pedal with all of my might. I refuse to be beaten by these stupid, illogical thoughts!
Debora: I like your attitude. In fact, I love your attitude. Sadly my worst anxieties are not for myself, but for the people I care about. Things completely out of my control.
I'm right there with you. We should have an anxiety crone ceremony--embrace it all! Peace...
Linda: Too many of us. And I love the idea of the gathering (coven?) of anxiety crones.
Anxiety is my middle name. Social anxiety, mostly. I cannot go to the mall or to any crowded places or I'll faint. But seriously though, that has got to be the worst feeling in the world... being so anxious, waiting for answers or waiting for retribution that may never come. Being worried about someone else's state of mind (looking at Lotta Joy) and not being sure what you can do about it can get uncomfortable but sometimes, in the end, it is SO worth the agony. I feel you.
Furry Bottoms: I knew I wasn't alone - but I didn't realise just how not alone. Lots and lots of us. Which is sad and bad.
Is Anxiety Man allowed to drop in among all these anxious girls/ladies/crones? That I may not fit in is making me anxious...
Andrew Maclaren-Scott: How did I overlook responding to you? Or is it yet another blogger glitch. Of course anxiety man can join the party.
Sue, this made me smile. And I can certainly relate. At times I feel I am less human and more like a single anxiety blob, freaking out uncontrollably on the inside. I have to take it day by day. And I've learned to watch and attempt to divert my thoughts before they snowball out of control. Easier said than done.
Raquel Somatra: Sometimes even day by day is too much. Hour by hour? Diversions are good - but as you say sometimes difficult.